Somatic Sex Education
Empowerment through Intimacy Education
Bodies are a scary place for many people.
A place to hide, or disappear from.
We have been taught to compare and contrast.
To feel locked in by shame.
Some of us have been taught to suppress, to deny, to not feel.
Some of us are scared.
The body can be a place of immense judgement.
Bodies can feel unknown, yet lived in every day, not paid attention to, hated.
Bodies can be the home of repressed feeling, of shutting down, or holding back words.
We live in a society where the intellect is worshiped and health is measured in terms of productivity.
A culture that values money over human life.
Our work together offers opportunity to shift.
“Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going on inside ourselves.”
– Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk
I hold a a gentle attentive space for you to:
Compassionately come home to your body,
To give voice to your choice.
To reclaim your organic aliveness at a pace that’s just right for you, a space for old stories to compassionately be released.
To get to know yourself in a real way, to step into your authentic expression.
I provide a nurturing space and walk with you, holding you in Loving Awareness as your own insights are revealed in our work together, as you reclaim the lost parts of yourself.
I celebrate and affirm your own wisdom and trust in yourself.
I take care of myself in our work together and I honour my own boundaries.
“Your ability to give what is real and effective is directly proportional to your ability to receive what is real and meaningful to you.”
– Dr. Betty Martin
Our time together can involve practicing embodied consent, learning conscious communication and relational skills, learning to deepen awareness of your own desire and communicate desire as well as trauma – informed conscious one-way touch sessions that allow dearmouring and aliveness to return.
“ The body is the energetic space where we build trust and intimacy, produce meaningful work, create family and community, bring forth a world in language, and live our spiritual aspirations.”
– Richard Strozzi Heckler
Are you ready?
✓ Ready to fly past the limits of what your experience is possible?
✓ Ready to feel in charge and sovereign in your body and empowered in interactions with other bodies?
✓ Ready to heal and find beauty in the places that once were painful or cut off?
✓ Ready to become one of those rare human beings who rise up and claims a long ignored part of our humanity and shares it with others?
FAQs
What is Somatics?
Derived from the Greek word, somatikos, which signifies the living, aware, bodily person. It posits that neither mind nor body is separate from the other, both being part of a living process called the soma. This implies that the notion of a unified, whole individual was part of early thinking.
With the ever evolving field of neuroscience, science backs somatic work and gives huge contribution and insight into the interweaving of the mind, body, soul connection. Books like The Body Keeps the Score, are now being read even in the world of the military soldiers I come in contact with.
What can somatic coaching be like?
It is distinct from conversational coaching (although we will have conversation). Somatic coaching I offer includes the physical world of sensation, temperature, weight, movement, streamings, as well as images, thoughts, attitudes, insights and language. Somatic coaching I offer sees Mind/body/Soul/Spirit as one Sacred unity.
Breath awareness is foundational in the coaching I offer, returning conscious breath to the forefront of awareness allows the body to feel safe to where we can listen to what your body has to share.
Why might I sign up for Empowerment through Intimacy Education?
- Healing from injury, illness, or learning about yourself in a new stage of life
- A safe place to speak openly about the intimate details of your life
- Desire to deepen understanding of the mind body Spirit connection, and relational skills
- The Wheel of Consent – Practice establishing, communicating and negotiating boundaries – and Awakening to conscious sexuality – Practice giving and receiving, asking for and granting permission for touch (this does not include genital touch)
- Loss or lack of sexual desire – inside or outside of a relationship
- Loss of feeling alive or inspired, or you know there is more to Life but it feels just beyond reach
- Learning to love yourself again after sexual abuse or trauma
- Healing from sexual trauma or traumatic childbirth
- Addressing troublesome turn-ons, including “pornography addiction”, “sex addiction”, unwanted fantasies
- Exploring new ways of relating in a safe environment
“The body is the energetic space where we build trust and intimacy, produce meaningful work, create family and community, bring forth a world in language, and live our spiritual aspirations.” – Richard Strozzi Heckler
What is working with and through the body like?
The body is where the emotional, social life of the individual is. Through working with body, the client through direct experience begins to recognize the body holds unspoken stories, and ways of seeing, and being.
The body when met with utmost care, awareness, attention..
The body when given voice/ choice and held in compassion and skillful, patient, attention… finds release and opens to a whole new way of seeing and being…
“When we work through the body we engage the fundamental life energy that animates and shapes who we are. When we connect with this core energy we contact a vast reservoir of wisdom, compassion, and intelligence that we’ve neglected. As we learn to listen to this life energy and to act from it there’s much it can teach us about living spiritual values while our feet are firmly on the ground. This somatic intelligence affirms the truth of our interdependence, interconnectedness, and a power that lies beyond the self. Somatic coaching teaches individuals how to contact this life energy and to allow it to inform their actions, relationships, moods, and way of being in the world.” – Richard Strozzi Heckler
Why do you only offer Empowerment through Intimacy Education only as a package?
Through my direct experience and working with nearly a hundred bodies over the last 7 years.. I realize each session builds upon the last. So much is happening in every session, education is happening, unseen trauma arises to be compassionately released, new doorways of awareness and joy, new ways of relating that shows up in between sessions, in close relationships and how one relates with the entire world around them. Embodiment is a practice, as new neural pathways are being created and established it’s important that the body has support over a period of time, and soul has opportunity to grow in awareness.
Somatic Work is a profound inner journey and outer renewal, it’s a path of restoration and transformation, and it requires slowing down… learning to feel the nuances… the subtleties… it requires nurturance, support, accountability and lots and lots of care and patience. This is my direct experience and way that I can best support and work with you.
What is genital mapping and genital dearmouring?
Genital Mapping
Genital mapping involves exploring and understanding one’s own genital anatomy and associated sensations, often as part of sexual self-discovery or sexual health education. Genital mapping encourages a non-judgmental focus on both external and internal body areas to enhance awareness and understanding of sensation and function. Genital mapping supports normalizing genitals as a neutral part of body and also can support individuals to become more connected to their bodies and empowered in Self awareness and choice, leading to greater self-confidence and allowance of life-energy as a natural normal part of being human. It untangles sexual feeling from romanticism by reestablishing the realization that sexual energy/life energy is as natural as breathing air, the Essence of who you are and you have opportunity to reclaim Life energy as your own, in its innocence.
Genital Dearmouring
“Scientific studies now verify how our psychology and neurology shape our physiology. The body is an extension of the mind’s thoughts, both conscious and un-conscious, and past memories, stories, tensions, and traumas left unintegrated, remain stored in the tissues and fascia of our musculature and nervous system affecting our current behaviors.
These contractions can appear as tension, discomfort, numbness or pain in areas of the pelvic bowl, or show up as boredom, avoidance or frustration during sexual intimacy. The use of breath, sounding, intentional touch, and presence are utilized to facilitate the gentle release of these contractions and an integration of their related emotions, leading to the healthy flow of previously stagnant sexual life force energy.
Receiving the pleasures, sensations, and intuitive wisdom from the Source of Divinity within further nourishes and expands an embodied integration with innate intuition, creative flow, embodied power & presence, and heart-felt desires.
The deepening connection and wholeness between heart, sex, and spirit becomes reflected in clients’ outer lives with the expansion of joy, aligned success, and loving relationships experienced both personally and professionally.” – Rahi Chun
Why in the state of Alabama do you only offer Genital Mapping and Genital Dearmouring for Women? And if Men are interested in this work with you, do you offer this at educational retreats?
After meeting with my lawyer in March of 2024 we discovered that there are no laws on this field of study and work in the state of Alabama. Somatic Sex Education is considered a “first impression” in the state of Alabama. What I have discovered as a practitioner- in my final mentorship at the Somatic Sex Institute -and working with people in the South, although this work is trauma informed, evidence backed and life-changing, in the eyes of people uneducated in this field, a lot of misinterpretation, projection and fear can be projected around this work.
For my own safety, in the state of Alabama, I will only offer genital mapping or genital dearmouring for Women, and only once they have completed my Self Empowerment through Intimacy Education Course. Developing foundational skills and knowledge through our work together, to be able to hold growing capacity for trauma release and nervous system regulation, which increases life energy and well-being!
It’s healthy to go slow and it’s healthy to allow balance to be restored, trust to be established and healing to come. At educational retreats I offer with my partner Israel, I do offer genital mapping and genital dearmouring for both women and men, if it’s part of the educational container, and within established guidelines.
How to schedule
in person session
3 easy steps:
Step 1. Take some time to look at my intake form fill it in online and send it back to me. Answer only the questions you feel are relevant to our work together.
Step 2. Schedule a complimentary 15 min consultation call with me through email. We will meet on zoom or on the phone this step is required before any in-person booking.
Step 3. We can discuss on our call the best dates/times that could work for each of us.
Things to know about Somatic Sex Education before we work together:
- This is a Certified field. It is in the field of naturopathy.
- Somatic Sex Educators have a code of Ethics that are followed.
- You must be approximately 30 years old or older.
In-person sessions are a trauma-informed and are a client-led approach that supports filling the gap between therapy and the healing power of conscious touch.
Please note: there will be no genital touch in these sessions and clothes stay on, there is a signed agreement stating you know, understand and respect this in our work together before we ever begin.
For Women - AFTER this series if you feel like genital - mapping or body awakening through conscious asked for touch would serve your own healing into wholeness we can discuss if these evidence backed practices feel like they are aligned and a fit for your own unfolding journey in Self liberation and Self Empowerment.
I only offer genital mapping for vulva owners in the state of Alabama and ONLY after this foundational work of establishing an embodied understanding of choice/voice, education and somatic understanding of power dynamics and how the body releases armouring through your own direct experience. You can google info on - genital dearmouring or genital mapping if you want more info.
Self Empowerment through Intimacy Education package
(5 sessions, 2 hours each)
$1,000
Half payment is due before we ever begin.
This is non refundable but in case of emergency can be transferred once to a reschedule.
24 hours notice for cancellation is required or full payment for that session is due.
Emergencies are the exception.
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Offerings
We are a sanctuary where humans are supported in full bodied aliveness, and the remembrance of divinity. Offering monthly Certified yoga classes, breath-work, Self-empowerment through Certified Intimacy Education and educational retreats held in pristine locations.
